I say marriage doesn’t equal love. It’s all an illusion. People settle for what they can get or what’s convenient for them. They also marry because society tells them to. That’s why you have 50% of marriages ending in divorce. I dare say at least another 25% are just so set in their ways and get along just enough that they tolerate each other for the rest of their days. Not to mention those who fear being alone in their old age and think they can’t find anyone else. Some stay together merely for the benefit of their children. Maybe 25% are actually in love or what they believe is love, but it’s most likely not their true soul mate love because it would be impossible for two such people to meet on a huge planet. Not to mention whose to say they were even born in the right time frame, or on this planet to begin with.
In addition whose to say love even exists or at least exists for the majority of people on this planet? The truth is people usually get together because they are sexually attracted to each other and might also have some things in common as well which lead to marriage. Whose to say it just isn’t a biochemical thing in the brain and over time the addition of comfortable familiarity solidifies their belief that they are in love. Lets face it if their supposed love looked like Frankenstein I doubt they’d be together even though that person would still be the same in their mind, heart, and soul.
This was a reply someone made to a similair post I made on a public forum:
Most of the people get together out of habit. And the older they get, the less love is a factor. They focus on more reaonable criteria instead. Some people stay alone because they just can´t find somebody who evokes the same feeling they once felt for someone special. I think that is really one of the last taboos in todays society. The amount of really lonely people. Because most people don´t understand the problem. They say, ah get out and fall in love. No, that´s not that easy. Because what they perceive as falling in love really is just getting together, nothing more. I don´t want to put it on a pedestal that high, but being in love is different than finally settling with the girl you picked up in a club. They confuse the feeling of being used to somebodys company with love. But deep inside you can feel the difference when you relly meet a special person. But that is terribly rare.
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Thanks Jenny!
I have to say on this, that true love does exist. I have felt it, but was too ignorant to truly see it and lost it. But I still feel that connection and I know she does too. Marriage doesnt neccessarily mean you have found love, but some do. I just hope I can get it back.